Conversation between "yaami" and "Anonymous"

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yaami
I'm student & living in another city on rent from my netive , where I'm living there was a one little family(husband-wife-little son) , somehow I start talking with that lady(28yr) for just friendship....but our conversation cross the limit and little physical relationships occurred between us...its all good until her husband seems little doubt on her...after that we stop everything...but that lady tell me some wrong thing...but her husband even never try to threaten me or never take any step against me...she said me that her husband knows everything but I don't belive...after some days they changed their house and left...I'm very worried...and feel guilty that I spoil someone's life...today its about one month of that moment but nothing happen against me by her husband ., but just want to know what is the situation now and how much thing she told her husband , I can't belive that any wife can talk with her husband about this type of relation by their self...so I just want to know what should I do , I want to know that she's ok or not...and really worried about her..
Jan 08 2016 03:01 am
Hey. I am glad you shared your problem with me. I’ll be happy if I can help you. First of all, you need not worry so much. You might not know the level of understanding between that lady and her husband. And definitely, there might be strong reasons due to which she told everything to her husband. Coming to your worries, you can just search that lady on social media and obviously, you'll be able to draw conclusions about her present status from her profile. I hope this will give you a feeling of relaxation. And after viewing her profile, you can also drop her a text asking about her well-being. But, one thing you should be very clear with, what happened is past now, but you should understand that it's better if you have a bond with her that doesn't exceed the limits of friendship because that can harm both of you. And even if you are unable to contact her by any means, it's high time... that you should stop overthinking about the past. Time is the best healer. So, let go. And you can pray for her well being too. Prayers have great strength. And itsohkay dear, you need not feel guilty. What happened in the past might be because of the heat of the moment and now you just have to let the effects of past go away from your present. Take care.
yaami
Jan 08 2016 03:49 am
yaami
Thanks to reply..! She told me that her husband doubt on her because one screen shot of our conversation he seen but before read she deleted that screen shot and then after all doubt starts.. good thing is that her husband even don't try to contact me if he knows everything he should contact me but he don't so I think she didn't tell about physical touch. I respect her husband and also feel bad. She told me when the doubt starts , that we should stop everything and I agreed , but because of her worried face and behavior at her home I asked her to know about situation...then after she told me that her husband knows everything but before she told me that its just a doubt..so I think she want to stop everything so tell me such things by adding some wrong things that her husband knows everything..., I tried for social way but everything closed no updates from that moments..!! But the worrying things is that by which number I connected with her , is saved in her husband's phone....I told her that if someday any problem occurre then give this number to your husband and tell that someone's disturbing her.!! But worst thing is that my permenent number is also saved in her husband's phone , I can't understand why that number is there...she asked me for my permenent number because she is giving my old number to her husband so if anything happn then she can contact me by my permenenet number , but now my both number is in her husband's phone....I think she saved that number so I will not try to take any step more...!! But I just want to contact her to know that she's ok or not and which things she told to her husband...what is the situation now...I'm worried more because she don't tell such things anyone because she's don't have any friends that such thing tell to those...!! She can't tell anyone and worried alone...so I want to know how's is she....?
Jan 08 2016 05:39 am
Calm down dear. I totally understand your situation. Your concern for her is absolutely genuine. As per your description of your problem, it seems that she doesn't want to keep in touch anymore. She might obviously have reasons for the same. And it's for you who has to understand that she is your past now. I completely agree that you are just concerned about her well-being. Obviously, you had such a special bond with her and you would desire that she is happy now. But, realize the fact that your entry back in her life may cause problems for her and that might be the reason that she didn't intend to be in touch with you. Try to see the situation from the other side and have faith in God that yes! she'll be fine. Have faith and now you move on. Because, even if she is not fine now... she will be after sometime,for sure. I hope you might have felt a bit light after sharing your problem. Stop worrying now and relax dear. Everything is fine. Itsohkay.. life is a roller coaster ride.. up-to you you enjoy it or not!
yaami
Jan 08 2016 09:24 am
yaami
She told me at that time she's feeling guilty to her husband because she broke his trust and she told me that she want to forgot everything , so think she saved my number in her husband's phone...but before her husband's doubt thats everything fine but I think then after she realise that we made big mistake , she told me with this mistake and doubt how can she live....so I just want to do everything as before , I want to get back their trust to her husband and want everything as before...is there any way to do so...I'm really very worried at that time , so that I thought to meet her husband and say sorry but my friend stop me...I really cried everynights about thinking that I totally spoil their life...her little boy used to play with me and her husband also know me as from our group living beside I only person they know me very well...I broke all their trust...I'm really worried and can't stop thinking about that family.... But I know she didn't tell everything to her husband , and she told me by adding some wrong thing that's why I don't msg her...but I just want to know the situation and how's there life going on....she's really alone and can't tell anyone about her problem and her sadness...I don't want to disturb her or get back her , I just want to know she's ok or not .., if by doing anything i help her then I want to do anything for that...!!
Jan 09 2016 06:31 am
Dear, just realize one thing. No third person can build the trust between husband and wife. They themselves do it. You need to control your emotional level for her. Your intrusion back in her life may create problems for her. So, I would suggest you to stay far from her and her life with the belief that she is fine because that is the best solution for both of you. Your constant thinking for her will just only disturb you more and will result in no benefit. You need to tackle the situation practically by understanding the fact that you can do good to her only by staying away from her. The sooner you are able to accept this fact, better for you. And don't worry, she might have found a way to handle her difficulties of life... maybe another friend or some other source. It is rightly said : "We are given the difficulties of our lives because we are strong enough to handle them". Stop worrying, everything is fine. Take care.
yaami
Jan 09 2016 09:35 am
yaami
So I don't try to contact her anyomore..? I understand all things and I don't want to create problem in her life and don't want to go back in her life but just she tell me that everything is fine and I want to say sorry to her that's it.., nothing more..!! What you think may I do that..? By doing that I fell better if she's ok....!
Jan 09 2016 10:08 am
She is not a kid dear. You need not worry about her. And definitely, you need not feel guilty as I already mentioned it was because of heat of the moment, and yes, it was from both sides. As I can see that you are just concerned about her well being, So I would suggest you to not to contact her. If she would desire to be back in touch, she'll contact herself. For now, you need to give to her and yourself. You both just need to move on. That is the need of the hour. Just have faith in God, she'll be fine. Take care of yourself, that is important for now.
yaami
Jan 09 2016 10:33 am
yaami
Okk then I have to forget everything and don't thinking about her....and try to move on...!! Ok. Thanks dear...!!! Thank u so much...! But if somehow any way to know her situation indirectly then please tell me....I have only her mobile number , I don't know her new address...! I tried to forgot her and all this things but it's above 1.5 month but still no change I always thinks of that time and worried...!! Ohk but thanks to help me... I don't know what will be happen in future....but one thing is final that I can't forgot my this mistake whole my life...!!
Jan 09 2016 04:24 pm
yaami
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Jan 11 2016 02:46 am
Itsohkay dear... things need time. And moreover you shared some special moments with the lady, so definitely, it will take time. But, trust me... soon, you'll be over it. Just have patience.. focus on achieving your goals of life.. rest, everything will be fine. Take care.
yaami
Jan 11 2016 04:38 am
yaami
Ok I will try to forgot....as I'm student my goal of life is more important..! But as I mentioned above if there's any way to know about her situation indirectly then pls tell me...I have just her number...!! Plz tell me if there's any way to know about her....directly its not good as she may not want to talk with me so it's possible indirectly , If any way then please tell me.....thank you
Jan 11 2016 08:52 am
The way through which you can get information about her without directly contacting her is only through social media network as I don't think you might have some mutual friends. But, as you mentioned she isn't active on social media... then I don't think there could be any appreciable source of information. If destiny would desire, one day when she'll be much comfortable, it might happen that she may contact you. But, you need not wait for it... just go with the flow. Life is full of surprises.
yaami
Jan 13 2016 12:25 am
yaami
I all want that she try to contact me as she ask for my permanent number and giving my fake number to her husband...but it's on destiny...I don't know what should I do....if there's any way from my side to do anything then I can do anything...!!
Jan 13 2016 06:21 am
yaami
One comman friend of my and her but she's not trustable , she can told about this to her husband , and also she not might like that I tell any other person about this.!! If there any way that you can contact her..? I will give you her info and number...!! If possible then please dear help me...!! As I not mentioned my age before that I'm just 19 so not mature enough to take decisions..plz help me dear..!! Plz plz
Jan 13 2016 06:28 am
Calm down dear. As i mentioned before as well, the decision to contact you or not should be of the lady so that it doesn't create problems in her life... i won't suggest you to try to get back in touch with her. Besides, I am here to help you anytime but it's actually not possible to contact that lady personally on my behalf as it doesn't accomply with our terms and conditions. And also, you need to understand that even if that would have been possible, it wouldn't have benefitted you in any manner as moving on from the past memories and having the faith that she'll be fine is the best possible solution as for now. I would suggest you to let it go... and focus on your career. You are just 19.. a long life ahead, make it big. Take care.
yaami
Jan 13 2016 07:56 am
yaami
Ya I also want to move on...but it's not possible till I know about her..! And not by other if I know by herself that she's ok is the best way to moving on for me..!! If she say that she's ok and forgive me then it's matter to moving on...without that I can't move on...!!!
Jan 13 2016 10:09 am
You have to think in a matured way. You are just being adament on a point which is harmful for you. I'll just give you an example to illustrate it.. for instance, she says she is ok... then you may wish to know what all exactly happened.. and even if she says all.. again you would have some anothe wish to convince yourself. It's human nature. But, you have to handle it in a sensible manner. Your intrusion in her life in any manner will do good to her. Letting her go is better than getting back in touch and hearing the word of forgiveness. What happened was not your fault, try to realize this! And definitely, if you try to focus on your goal of life with true dedication and determination, you will be able to move on. I know you might have already put in efforts for the same... but be consistent, it will take time but it is the correct thing and surely, good for not just both of you, but her family as well. Try to anaylze the situation with your brain as well along with using heart. Take care.
yaami
Jan 13 2016 10:18 am
yaami
I don't want to get back her , as you tell I just want to know what actually happened that's it...because she told me all wrong things...so if she tell me everything right then I know the actual thing...nothing else...!!
Jan 13 2016 05:52 pm
yaami
And if everything is fine then why still my permanent number is in her husband's phone , it's not after 1-2 days of that thing but after some days there is my number there...!!! And only she has my that number ..! what about that ..?
Jan 13 2016 05:58 pm
Dear, you are just thinking too much. A number still saved in her phone doesn't imply anything! Calm down..and let it go... stop thinking on thinks which genuinely don't have much importance. You never know, she might have not even thought of it that the number is still saved. So, stop being a detective on thinking long over small things. The important thing is only thay you should move on now. It's high time. Time will heal everything. Just focus on your career. Take care.
yaami
Jan 16 2016 04:23 am
yaami
Ok...thanks
Jan 16 2016 08:18 am
My pleasure dear. Free feel to share anything,anytime. Stay Connected.
yaami
Feb 29 2016 04:36 pm

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